In his bestselling PDF download, Text Your Ex Back, Michael Fiore talks about using “best of the relationship” texts as part of an overall plan to get your ex back after a breakup. The central idea is that carefully crafted text messages sent from your iPhone or other smart phone can open your ex up to the idea of being with you again.
It may seem farfetched to some, but these are usually the people who underestimate text messages as a powerful and extremely useful form of communication that gives you incredible access to your ex in a personal, private, and intimate way.
Best of the relationship texts use emotional language to plant positive thoughts and emotions in your ex’s mind. They are based on the best memories and experiences you and your ex have shared so you’ll need to do a little homework before you start using them.
Think about all the positive things that drew you and your ex together. What were the best experiences you shared together? Were they adventures? Were they romantic or sexual? Were they spent with friends and family? Through emotional language, you will take these memories and experiences and make them as real as possible so your ex thinks about you in a positive way.
When you first start texting your ex, best of the relationship texts won’t be your best bet. You need to establish a little bit of communication with your ex before you start using them. In Text Your Ex Back, Michael Fiore recommends using an “across the bow” text to get the ball rolling. Only then do best of the relationship texts come into play.
So how do you combine best of the relationship texts with emotional language to create a powerful text message effect that will resonate with your ex? You have to understand what emotional language is.
Michael Fiore says, “Emotional language are the words that bypass the critical mind of whoever you’re talking to and appeal directly to their ‘Lizard Brain’ in a way they almost can’t resist”. He uses an example of the word “beat” versus the word “obliterate”. Can you see how much more powerful the latter is?
When you use best of the relationship texts you’ll be focusing on memories… good memories. So you’ll be asking your ex to remember something positive and fun, and you’ll be directing that memory in their mind.
For example, “Remember that time we raced those Go Karts at the county track? You were so excited when you bumped my rear and made me spin out so you could pass me and beat me. Brat. It was a blast though and you looked good with your cute little racer’s helmet.”
Just remember to focus on fun, happy, and pleasurable experiences to direct your ex into thinking positive thoughts about you.