A relationship is a state of being connected. Every person that we cross paths with leaves an impression on us as we do to them. In business, they say big part in success is “not what you know but who you know.” That saying is only half-true, if someone knows you and you do not have a good relationship with them, that can hurt you way more than them not knowing you at all.
Early in life we start meeting people and forming relationships. As adults, we are who we are but we still need people and relationships to survive. Here are some steps to help you set up positive relationships with people you meet.
We only get one first impression, so make it a good one. Smiling doesn’t hurt anyone. Even if you feel bad or stressed, smiling can also help you. The law of attraction is very real. If you seem happy and inviting, people will want to get to know you.
2. Listen when people talk.
All people are important and can add value to your life. Sometimes people talk to vent and sometimes they want advice. No matter what they want, you make them feel important by really listening to what they are saying. People will forget what you said and even what you did, but they will always remember how you made them feel. Listening is part of making them feel good.
3. Honor your word.
Do what you say you’re going to do, no matter what it is. Communicate if you aren’t able to fulfill your promise. Honoring your word shows reliability. Being reliable goes a long way, in business, friendship and romantic relationships.
4. Always be honest.
Sometimes it’s hard to tell the truth when you think the truth is going to hurt the person or make the person see you in a negative light. However, telling the truth tells the person that you are dealing with that you respect them. If the truth is hurtful, try to find words to express it that soften the blow. When the person gets over the hurt, they will appreciate your honesty. Honesty breeds trust in relationships.
5. Hold yourself accountable.
We are all human. No one is perfect. Sometimes, we make mistakes. Apologies are necessary to move forward with the relationship. If you are wrong, admit that you are wrong and apologize. Accountability is always better received than defensiveness.
Establishing relationships is a challenge but can almost always be beneficial to both parties. When meeting new people, smile at them. Listen to people when they talk. Really listen. Be a reliable person that honors their word. Honesty is the best policy and accountability is always well received.